Love, Marriage and Sex

Have you ever wondered…What is love…?

Why is there such a thing as marriage? Why the need for it? Can’t we just go on with our lives without it? What is sex? Why does it have to be between man and woman? Why not man with man and woman with woman?

Regardless of how we view it, sex has everything to do with the Kingdom of God. Without sex, God’s purpose vis-à-vis mankind will not be realized. It was incorporated in God’s Master Plan of creation — the part that involved mankind-from the beginning. We will see shortly.

A good number of people, the prudes especially, regard the subject of sex as taboo when talking about God and religion. To them sex is evil-it is dirty. It should not be mentioned, even in casual conversations. On the other hand, the great majority find amusement on the subject. Often, it is the principal theme of songs, poems, advertisements, news, articles, movies, TV and stage shows, and every other activity man could engage in. But what is sex and why sex? Would mankind be better off without it?

It is very unfortunate, indeed, that because of the absence of understanding of the mystery of the Kingdom of God and the direct relation of sex to it, people have fallen into all sorts of trouble and misery involving sex. It is mankind’s greatest weakness. In the face of temptation men and women become powerless. Through the ages, the mighty and powerful — men of note and great caliber — have fallen because of sex scandals. Countless people lived miserable lives (many still do) because of unbridled sex. From the rich to what society calls “dregs,” most, if not everyone, gave in to the alluring appeal of sex at one time or another during their lifetime.

Just what is the purpose of sex?

We cannot have an objective, intelligent and sensible discussion of the subject unless we take it up in the context of the Kingdom of God. Our starting point would be God’s Plan of creating man to replicate Himself

Because of God’s transcendent purpose in creating mankind which was to raise a family of like beings as Himself to populate the Kingdom that He was going to establish for His Son, it was of necessity that He created them physical beings in accordance with the natural law of reproduction or the direct transfer of the basic properties, attributes and qualities of the progenitor to the resultant offspring from generation to generation without loss of identity, regardless of the number of times the process is repeated-the “DNA” that science has come to call it.

With all the power available to Him (“For with God nothing is impossible” [Luke 1:37], God could have created Adam a single-celled living being capable of reproducing itself by fission like the amoeba, to achieve His purpose, but He did not. Instead, He created Adam multiple-celled incapable of reproducing himself, on his own. He needed a partner to perform the process. Why?

Let’s read Genesis 2:18, “the Lord God said, ‘It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.'” He then formed Eve from Adam’s body (verses 21-22) instead of forming her from dust as He did with Adam.

From this very brief account of Adam’s creation, God is giving us an insight into the deep meaning of love which is the basic component of His nature, the foundation of everything that He is. “God is Love” (1 John 4:16).

God imbued Adam with His basic attributes and traits, principal of which is love, that Adam would then pass on to His children and his children to their children, on down to each and every generation afterward. “Let us create man in our image, after our likeness,” God said (Gen 1:26). Thereafter He told Adam and Eve, “Be fruitful and multiply, and fill the earth and subdue it” (verse 28).

In addition to other attributes, God created Adam with the capacity and the capability to feel and express God’s reciprocal love. It is a feeling of concern for others that is of equal degree as concern for self. It’s an innate desire for companionship and togetherness-to love and be loved. It’s not instinct as in the case of animals. This considered, logic will tell us that it was but natural, therefore, that God should create a woman as partner for man, for how could Adam love if he had no one to love with?

But why did it have to be a woman instead of another man? To answer the question, first we have to consider the natural law of reproduction involving begettal or impregnation in contrast to fission. Science will tell us that except for the single-celled amoeba that reproduces by fission or cell division, all other living creatures that are multiple-celled: animals, insects, and birds, reproduce through fertilization-the union of the sperm cell and egg cell which are present in separate entities-the male and the female.

By the process of conception, the physical properties, along with other attributes, of the parents are directly transmitted and developed in the offspring. This process of reproduction necessitates the intercourse between two opposite sexes (male and female) with distinct but complementary reproductive organs, to produce an offspring. There is no way that a child can be naturally conceived except by said process. Science has come up with “cloning” as alternative to this natural process but that is not acceptable to God.

That God created man necessarily to need a woman has everything to do with love. He created the woman from man in order that the man would desire for the woman who is part of himself; and for the woman to desire for the man of whom she is part. God meant for them to complement each other-to make complete what is lacking in their individual, separate selves. God created them one flesh for said purpose (Genesis 2:24). They share the same basic physical properties but are equipped with different reproductive organs to carry out God’s purpose in creating mankind. God’s purpose cannot be realized between man and man or between two women. It just doesn’t work technically, morally, and spiritually. Any same-sex partnership that mimics the kind of relationship (sexual act included) that God intended to be had only between man and woman is an abomination to Him (Romans 1:26-27).

God created in man and woman the desire or urge for sex, independent of the time factor, as the ultimate expression of their love — not LUST or LIKING — for one another. That’s why there is orgasm in sex; also why the urge for it could come any time to either the man or the woman. Contrast this to the sexual behavior of animals and other living organisms that copulate or mate by instinct in response to nature’s call solely for the purpose of reproduction, hence, cyclical or seasonal.

Satan hates mankind because of their potential to be in God’s Kingdom while he himself will be cast out. He is thus bent on destroying man and one of his more effective tools in carrying out his evil plan, is the drive for sex. It’s a weakness that he observed in Adam when he consented to Eve’s seductive invitation to eat the forbidden fruit. He had since perfected his craft and has never stopped corrupting the minds of people with lust through the ages, down to our time. Worst, he has influenced man to perform perverted acts even savage beasts do not do.

God knew, from the very start, of men’s (and women’s) weaknesses as regards sex so He set guidelines for sexual behavior and responses by way of the written code (the law) which Jesus Christ later magnified in His “sermon on the mount.” He instituted marriage to formalize and bind the union of the man and woman in love with each other. God intended that sex, in fulfillment of His purpose and as an expression of love, must be done within the confines of marriage between husband and wife. He then richly blesses the faithful relationship with the birth of lovable kids and a happy, God-centered family. God hates sex outside marriage. Satan, however, greatly delights in it.

Sex is the most wonderful experience a man and a woman in love could enjoy in their physical lives if done with God’s Plan of the Kingdom in mind. It is not only gratifying but also truly fulfilling since by said act, the child that God forms after His likeness and image — a replica of Himself — is brought forth and with each child born, God’s Master Plan of the Kingdom gets closer to realization.


Mary J. Gibson

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